Episode · Dec 24, 2025 · 1 hr 37 min
From Failing on the World Stage to Winning on It
with Trey Hardee
Trey Hardee is a two-time decathlon world champion and Olympic silver medalist.
“It's either worth it or it's not.”
Summary
Trey Hardee traces his career from getting cut from his high school basketball team to pole vaulting and the decathlon. A book scholarship brought him to Mississippi State, where he learned new events and kept training through injuries and coaching changes. After transferring to Texas, he won an NCAA title and moved toward professional competition. He also recalls the pressures and setbacks that came before his first Olympic appearance.
At the Beijing Olympics, Hardee no-heighted in the pole vault and lost his chance at a medal. He says he felt ashamed of letting down teammates, coaches and supporters. His coaches asked whether he was committed to competing, and he rebuilt his training instead of walking away. Eleven months later, he won the decathlon world title. He and Ken discuss his Olympic silver after elbow surgery, why effort matters more to him than a score, and the coaching and training he does now.
Show notes
This week’s episode is with Trey Hardee, a two-time World Champion in the decathlon and Olympic silver medalist.
Trey opens up about one of the most defining moments of his career: failing publicly on the Olympic stage, the shame that followed, and the surgery and rehab that forced him to confront whether he was really finished. We talk about what it takes to sit with failure instead of running from it — and how that process ultimately led him back to the podium.
This is a conversation about discipline, patience, and doing the work when no one’s watching — and what’s possible on the other side of hard.
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Transcript
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Ken Rideout
All right, let's do this. Trey Hardee, best athlete in the world. I feel like uh whenever I mention your name in someone, there's like Trey Hardee, I'm like I have a visceral reaction. I'm like, you don't know who the best effing athlete in the world is.
Trey Hardee
For well, like former like it was a long time ago. Doesn't matter to me. It
Was a long time ago.
Ken Rideout
If you're the best athlete in the world once, you're the best athlete in the world forever to me. Two-time Decathlon world champion, Olympic silver medalist, handsomest guy I know. Tall, good-looking, smart.
Trey Hardee
Listen, we can stop this right now and just go on a date. That'd be fine.
Ken Rideout
Anyway, thanks for being here, man. I love you.
Trey Hardee
I can't do Thanks for having me. My pleasure.
To have you in town. It's always a bummer if I find out you were in town. Even if you're like super busy, I would have Yeah, I make it happen. Come see you.
Ken Rideout
That's true. I do feel guilty when I show up somewhere and don't tell everyone that's important that I'm there.
Trey Hardee
But sometimes you know a lot of people you'd have you got to do that or else you'd never get out of town.
Ken Rideout
And I'm old man after I run and do some work during the day. Like last night I was supposed to go to dinner at like 6:00. I told Ben and the guys I was with I'm like dude I have to go to my room. I did a long interview. I did a bunch of other stuff. I'm like I I need to be alone for a little while. I just ran out of juice.
Trey Hardee
I think people don't understand that energy tank. I think everyone understands the physical one or the sleep one or like the I need food one.
Yeah. But the energy tank that is like being you and like the best version of yourself and that like presence and excitedness and I call it like the TV tank like when you're on TV you got to be really in
That is a very import that's more important than all the other ones cuz that's the one that you draw from when we are you're presenting you're like trying to put your best foot forward and it is
When that's empty
It nothing else matters like you're just staring at the corner like
Ken Rideout
If people for the people who haven't done that or done long interviews being interviewed and doing interviews it really takes a lot of emotional energy from me.
Trey Hardee
It it's hard to describe like it really is hard to describe but it just yeah it emotional energy and and you're not like you're not fake but there is this you're sharp the whole time.
Ken Rideout
Yeah, you're on. It's tough. Well, the reason I wanted to have you on is I I love your story and I love the story about being cut from the high school basketball team and just knowing those feelings myself and see and now having kids that are like 15 to 10 and they're all going through their own little struggles and they're all of very very different abilities. I mean, some of the one of them is really good, one of them has two left feet. I mean, it is it's wild.
But I I've told them your story so many times. They're like, "Dad, please not the Trey Hardee story again. Please, because not only cut from basketball, but then you got into pole vaulter, and we'll get into it, but go to Mississippi State,
pole vaulter.
Trey Hardee
Yeah.
Ken Rideout
And then to end up as the NCAA champion at Texas on a full ride for a track athlete is just and then into the Olympics, it's effing incredible. I love this story and I wanted to share it with everyone. So, let's get into it. Let's start Let's start with the Let's start with the comeback. So you're in was it high school when you were playing basketball? And and if you don't know, if you Google Trey Hardee, you'll see how tall, 6'4.
Trey Hardee
6'5 now.
Ken Rideout
6'5. Can probably like do dunks like anyone in the NBA, right?
Trey Hardee
That
Ken Rideout
High jumper, can jump. I'm talking the best athlete you've ever seen. So in basketball, you must have just been like flying around people.
Trey Hardee
Well, at the time, I mean, I that was my sport growing up. like from the time you could dribble, you know, like you know, first and second grade you're playing, we're playing, you're doing allstars, doing all that stuff. Played for the school, started all, you know, seventh, 8th, 9th, um, JV, and then, um, I wasn't big and I wasn't tall and I could kind of jump, but like you could only jump so high as a, you know, 15-year-old kid who's 5' n and and, you know,
Yeah. Uh like I was I played one sometimes would float out to two um when we had a good point card but was not what you see here today and not if you if you know if you Google me that wasn't what I looked like. I was a pretty scrawny um but was always fast.
But you're also an athlete too. I I could pick things up and I I never I take full ownership of everything and like the path that I let like could I have done more to stay on the team? Could I have done you know the Michael Jordan and just worked my butt off and made the team next year? Probably. Um but I never really had anyone sit me down until I was in in track and field that and said, "Look, you you have got talent. Just stay the course.
Keep your head down. do what your coaches sake, that kind of thing. Put in the extra work and you're going to be great. Um, and so yeah, the being cut from the basketball team was way out of left field. Like I was I wanted to play I didn't know the path, but I wanted to play like small, you know, NIA ball uh back when Birmingham Southern was a a school. That was like it, like go play D3, go play somewhere and just continue this this love that I had for the game, you know.
Um, and it being asked not to come back and and literally being told to go be a pole vaulter, it was the it was looking back the best thing that could have ever happened to me. But at the time, I'm a I'm a junior in high school and sports are important and that was kind of who I was and it was the worst thing that could have ever happened to me. And didn't want to go to school the next day. Parents made me go to school.
Didn't want to go to the games. Other parents encouraged me to come to the games. Um, and it just kind of became a not a joke on the other on the coach, but very much like this, okay, m maybe he doesn't know really what the like how can he not see, you know, what are we doing here? Like how is this in the best interest of the team?
Um, and so get cut and then immediately start growing and putting on muscle and getting bigger and stuff. And so like during in between quarters and halftimes and stuff, I would just go out and dunk and do all kinds of stuff. It was kind of fun. But immediately went out to pull vault like immediately, okay, you want me to be the best pole vaulter, go be a pole vaulter. I'm like, I'm going to be the best pole vaulter you've ever seen. And you know, little over a year later set the Alabama state record, which wasn't that high, but went out and was a pole vaulter, you know, and actually got looked at from some colleges.
And then um the one that was offering me a book scholarship, I I took I was like, "Let's go." Like I'm a D1 SEC big- time athlete, you know, and took it and ran with it.
Ken Rideout
Did you ever consider going back your senior year and playing again? Cuz now you must have been like growing, getting big like you said, and dunking. I mean, not many kids in high school throwing down crazy athletic dunks.
Trey Hardee
Well, mine weren't even they weren't crazy and athletic. They were just I could I could get up there and that was all that like the school I went to where I was that's all he really needed to do
Like to be like oh wow Trey wow
Ken Rideout
Did the guy ever come back and say like hey come back out I made a mistake
Trey Hardee
Nope funny enough so he ended up he coached at the school for I man 30 40 years like a long long time tenure coach just never left yeah
Coached
I think he ended up winning two state titles in that long 40ear span And um but we were inducted into our our uh city's sports hall of fame in the same class.
Ken Rideout
Oh my god.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. So that's kind of cool. Um it was cool. It was like full circle thing and I think he in his head he takes credit for a lot of my success because he's the one that kind of kicked me out of the van, you know, and he's like you're walking that way, we're going this way. But I know I was very I would stubborn is the wrong word, but I was very much God, what are you what are you showing me here? I'm not supposed to be playing basketball.
I did love pole vaulting. This wasn't like a punishment. It was like I get to go play.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Like and now I get to go play this other thing and do the funnest sport in track and field. like this funnest thing I had ever done in terms of like it's freaking awesome. Like you watch track and field and you're like, "Okay, one of these things is not like the others.
There's worse things to go do." I I wasn't going and being an accountant or
Like, you know, restocking produce or anything like that. I tasted a little bit of success that that that initial season that spring of my junior year and then it really it was like, "Yeah, I I think I can do this." And I remember coming home. Uh so now we're in the fall of my senior year. I go to a pole vault camp, which those exist. Like you go, it's a bunch of dorks pole vaulting. And uh I come back and I go, "Mom, I'm going to be a professional pole vaulter." And she's like, "What?" I'm like, "I'm going to be a professional pole vaulter." And this is before I had ever jumped 146, which is nothing.
Hadn't jumped 15 feet. Hadn't done anything. I'm not nationally ranked. I'm maybe I'm in the top 300. in high school like this isn't anything to no one would have believed it, right? And so mom's just like you need to get a good education
And make sure you get a degree and have something that you can do, you know, when this doesn't work out, right? But never was negative about it. Never was anything but but supportive. Didn't understand the event at all like most don't. And they're like, "Why are you doing I saw you change polls. Why are you changing poll?" like all of that stuff and then ended up having a really good indoor state championship meet. Coaches were there recruiting other people, not recruiting me, saw me and were like, "Hey, would you want to come on a hey, so and so is going to come on a visit.
Would you want to come that same weekend?" Sure.
You know, we'll save some money. We're already going to dinner. Like all that, you know, [snorts]
And ended up just really enjoying my time in Starkville, Mississippi. Really liked the coaches, like the team. it just felt right and was, "Yeah, that's what we're going to do. I'm going to go there." And I just kind of put my head down and never I never really looked back on that time and really don't I don't have any regrets of maybe, man, should I have, you know, worked put my head down, worked hard, got in the gym, and and tried to make the team again, it was gone.
The way it ended, it was gone.
Ken Rideout
Yeah. Yeah.
Trey Hardee
You know, he wasn't going to have me back on the team. Yeah,
Ken Rideout
It's funny. I I don't know if I told you I'm helping out coaching a local high school cross country team in uh in Nashville and they're I mean they're unbelievable. The girls are like nationally ranked. They might be in the top five but they're number one in the state. The boys are like
Trey Hardee
Of course they are dude
Ken Rideout
Boys are like top three to five in the state but only two seniors like the JV.
They're going to win the states for like the next 10 years.
Trey Hardee
So are they just all right hey today everyone wake up run 10 miles and then we're hit the track in the afternoon.
Ken Rideout
They run 300 days a year at least. They are. They're savages though. They're like, you know, I like to tease cross countries about being cross country kids about being nerds, but I love them. I'd say, "Hey, I'm a nerd, too. I'm into this, too."
Trey Hardee
As mentally tough as you can find in a lot of them, if you're running cross from like, you know, middle school all the way to your senior year, you know more about yourself than most team sports people cuz you you've been alone and you've been
Ken Rideout
And that's the part I love working with them on is I'm like, if you don't think that there's a lot of strategy here, you are not understanding the sport. Cuz sometimes if they if they win or they lose the individuals I'm like you see when that girl went. You have to stay with her. This is a three- mile race. You you can't assume she's going to slow down. You have to just say, "All right, if she's going to take it out this hard, let's see who's got the bigger engine.
I'm going to stay with this." And she'd lost the one girl lost by 6 seconds. I'm like, "If you didn't let her put 30 seconds on, you know, but I love it. I love the kids. They're so cool." But um every time I see the track team and the the track coach, I'm like, "Hey, do you know that my friend is Trey Hardee?" And they and all of them are like, "Oh, really? Do you think he'd ever come here?" I'm like, "If he's in town, he would."
Trey Hardee
Absolutely.
Ken Rideout
But, um,
Trey Hardee
Absolutely. [clears throat] I love talking to that age group because high school's tough, too, where you get a lot of too cool for school and a lot of of trepidation trying
Cuz putting yourself out there and trying is scary.
Ken Rideout
You don't have to tell me.
Trey Hardee
And we lose a lot of talent with kids that could be amazing, but they're also they've got a reputation to uphold. and looking like a fool or losing early while you're learning, while you're building up your fitness or endurance or skill or whatever it is, it keeps a lot of people from like becoming something.
Ken Rideout
They had um a homecoming and we had a track meet the next day and the coach was like, the kids were like, "Oh, they shouldn't have scheduled it the day after homecoming, blah blah blah." And I was like, "You think that those kids on the football team are going to get up and come to your damn track meet? Then why are you worried about supporting them late at night on a Friday? go till the first half's over and then get home and handle your own business.
And the kids are just like, they're so polite. They're all like, "Yes, sir.
Trey Hardee
Never thought of that, sir. Thank you, sir."
Ken Rideout
But that's so cool. So, you get to Mississippi State and I assume you just start kicking ass. Like, how does Texas find you there? Like, what happens at Mississippi State?
Trey Hardee
I Well, I wanted to quit a bunch of times. Like, so I go from being a pole vaulter. It's fun. I All I did was pull vault every day.
Ken Rideout
That's what I was going to ask you. Did you have any inclination that you could throw a shot put or a javelin or hurdle or high jump?
Trey Hardee
I I mean I I couldn't. I I really couldn't. And um I had a natural like the hurdles kind of clicked for me. So that was never this super frustrating thing, but everything else was unbelievably frustrating. And just training in and of itself, like the the discipline and the tenacity and just the the the focused mindset you have to have to be good at the decathlon. I didn't think that I had it until all of a sudden I I had done my first decathlon and go, "Okay, now I know why what all this [ __ ] was for.
I know why it sucks and I think it's worth it. Here we go.
Ken Rideout
Now I'm now going to train suggest to you to do to cathode." So, you get there as a pull vtor and how quickly are they like, "No, you're now like the Catholic."
Trey Hardee
Right. When I got on campus,
Ken Rideout
Did they already know before you got there that they wanted you?
Trey Hardee
Because I I'm I don't want to say I messed up, but so I signed this huge book scholarship, right? So, I'm I'm getting my 200 bucks a month um stipen for books and I like, "Hey, coach, like we have this King of the Mountain meet." Um and I was like, "Hey, I want to run the hundred." And really just to shut the guy up that who's on the on the team who I know I'm faster than
Ken Rideout
In the hund.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. In the 100.
Ken Rideout
A division one in college. You're a pole vaulter. What would
Trey Hardee
No, no. This is in in high school. So I've already signed the scholarship. We're in the outdoor season and I'm just like I want to try the hund. I want to do this. I want to try these things.
Uh and I did 300 hurdles once. I ran a really slow 400 meter dash. I was just like let me see what it is.
Ended up being pretty fast. and um then get to school and they're like, "Hey, those
And you're you're growing and clearly still growing. You we're gonna do the decathlon. We think we can score some points at the conference meet." P your pole vault technique sucks basic. I mean, it wasn't great. And so the indoor se I train all fall. It sucks. When I say it sucks, like I'm I've never jogged more than a lap. And if I had to jog more than a lap, I'm walking part of it and I'm walking straight to the pole vault pit. I had never really lifted weights that like with any intention.
It was just like once a month in my attic garage or something. I'd done pull-ups. I was good at pull-ups and that was about it. Could walk my hands. That was about it.
Um, and so then I got thrown into this thing and it just sucked kind of every day and I was sore every day and I was frustrated every day.
Ken Rideout
You must have made crazy gains at that age when someone isn't used to that kind of fitness training.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. I mean, yeah. I mean, from August of 2002 to maybe March of 2003, I put on 30 lbs.
Not joking. 30 I put on 30 lbs. I was 6'3, 155, and then was about close to 6'4 uh 185 when I did my first decathlon. And it um I did the first one and and also this is coming off I we have the in indoor in sorry indoor SEC championships and they back then they did the pentathlon so they didn't do the the hep for the guys yet.
Uh they do the pent so I I run the thousand a long jump shot put do all that stuff and I am like 18th place in the SEC. 18th
I beat a couple guys that didn't finish. Yeah. and one guy like no marked and almost beat me. It I I was not good. Okay.
Like objectively like I wasn't there wasn't any promise.
Ken Rideout
I think that this I think that this is the story though. Like this is why I wanted to talk to you is to say like how you keep your head in the game to be like god damn I'm getting cut from the [ __ ] basketball team. All I want to do is play basketball. Okay, you like PV vault and you're okay, but you pull vault. Now you like get to college and you're like, "Oh, I'm getting the [ __ ] kicked out of me." 18th.
Trey Hardee
I mean, yeah,
Ken Rideout
No one wants to be 18th.
Trey Hardee
I'm not even the best on the team. Like, I'm not I'm not there yet, but I know I'm still I'm fast. Like, I'm still I'm getting faster. Um, you know, I ran 105 my freshman year. Um,
Ken Rideout
105 is
Trey Hardee
In the 100.
Ken Rideout
Effing insane
Trey Hardee
For a skinny little white kid. It felt pretty good.
Ken Rideout
That's insane for anyone. That is I mean like at 10 flat you're like you know threatening to make the Olympic team right
Trey Hardee
The well it so half a second 100 is a it's a chasm right so I'm barely faster than like the fastest woman in the world right now like barely
Ken Rideout
If I beat the fastest woman in the marathon I would be doing back flips okay so
Trey Hardee
They're everybody they're all fast but at that at that level you're a thousandth of a second looks like that right so I the day after this horrible event, the pentathlon is the open pole vault and I got to compete in it. Got all SEC. I got top eight. I scored some points for my team. It was the first time Mississippi State pole vaulter had scored in a really long time and I'm like,
"Yes,
Ken Rideout
Yeah,
Trey Hardee
I don't have to do this decathlon thing anymore. I'm clearly terrible at it. I'm just going to pull vault." And I remember having that brief conversation. They're like, "Well, no, you're going to do one." And I was like, "Oh, why am I doing one?" And they're like, "Well, the Texas Relays is in like a month. You've put in all this training. Just do one and we'll we'll go from there." I did the one that score from the Texas Relays me qualified me for the NCAA championships.
And I'm like, "Oh, okay.
Ken Rideout
How many dicathletes go to the the NCA?"
24ish out of the whole country.
Trey Hardee
Okay.
Yeah. Everybody. Um, and that meet was like, "Oh, this is way more fun." Like, I I can get into this and I know that that guy, that guy, that guy, that like the five or six guys that beat me, I'm I'm better than they are. Like, I know that I'm a better athlete than they are. I just need they're all seniors and juniors or or like foreign guys. And I was just that meat was one of the top three most important meats of my life just to be able to put stick my nose in it and I fought hard.
And the feeling that you get when you I know you know the feeling it is indescribable crossing the line um or finishing something hard where you're like stuff just starts clicking and you're like oh man I could get addicted to this. I I like competing and but this is different. This feeling of finishing this thing even though I finished in sixth or seventh place was like cannot wait to get back and train so I can so I can finish higher.
Ken Rideout
That's why I always tell people like you should be running and training to win. And winning doesn't have to mean winning the race. It means winning for you. You could be freaking dead last, but if you've never run a mile and you run 10, that's a win. So it people misunderstand when I'm like everything with win or die trying not actually win the whole race. I'm never winning the Boston Marathon but I can win my age group and I can and I can
And I can beat my best time but there's all little wins along the way and that's a perfect description of it cuz once you get that taste you're like oh I'm winning. I can win I I can win more.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. defining what that win is. And there's a there's a universal one and I think there's there's technical ones, there's like I think uh quantitative ones that are this time, that time, this place, that place, but then there's qualitative ones. And I think the qualitative one is the the real that that feeling that lasts more than a a brief second. And that is looking back knowing I did my best.
And doing your best surprises you every time. That's right.
Knowing knowing that like I could not have run any harder. I could not have concentrated anymore. I could not have like been like more present. I could not have been in a better mood. I couldn't have been happier. I couldn't All of those like qualitative ones are the ones that stick with you. I mean, I'm happy right now thinking about a lot of the stuff that I did knowing that was it. Like that was
Could I have scored higher? Could the quantitative stuff have been better?
Absolutely. But the but the stuff that really matters and like who I was as a competitor and the training and the getting up every day, all that stuff was Yeah, that was that's what sticks with you.
Ken Rideout
Yeah. The process of all that stuff when you're doing it and getting up day to day, it can be a grind. But like I was talking to my wife this morning. I'm like, I'm so tired. This stuff takes so much energy from me. And I She's like, "Well, did you run this morning?" I'm like, "Yeah, I ran." She's like, "Well, maybe don't do the run and then give some energy somewhere else." I'm like, and and and I was telling her like, "No, no, I have to stick to the routine." She's like, and she said, "You're the most regimented person I've ever met in my life." I'm like, she's like, "Every time you're home, you you're away, you're like coming home a day early.
You can't." I'm like, "I love my routine cuz I like the process of trying to win."
Like the process of getting up, pushing myself. Yeah, it sucks dayto day, but as soon as I don't have it, I'm like, "Oh." It's like that expression, you know, a rich man has a million problems and a sick man has one. if you get sick or you can't do something that you really love doing, you realize that this is the only thing I want to do. And I was talking to Rob Moore about this recently who's one of the producers here uh and producers Andrew Huberman show.
And he was like, "How much would I have to pay you to be able to to not be able to run?" And I was like, "Um, I said it would have to be astronomical. 100 million." He's like, "What about 5 million and you can't run anymore?" I'm like, "I don't think I would take it." And he's like, "So think about it. why would you like miss your run for any kind of work meeting or anything? And I was like, yeah, you're right.
Trey Hardee
That's an interesting way to pose.
Ken Rideout
So, when you think about it like that, the things that are important to you are worth more than money. People get get confused about that a lot, especially if you've never had any money. And listen, I never had any money for a long time, but as soon as you have money, you realize like, oh, I could have done things a lot differently. Like my I'm the same exact person as I was. like after you won the silver medal or the world championship. You didn't get up the next day and be like everyone knows I'm the world champion.
Like I know it, but that moment was fleeting and now I've got to get back to the grind so I can do it again.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. Every everyone listening to this show just learned that I was those things, you know.
But you touched on something too that a lot of times I feel people are on their own timetable, right? in life, in sport, in business, in in family, in whatever it is that the key is not like a magic workout. We're not talking about like this magic thing that like, oh, and then I did this one time and it unlocked all these things. It was the grind and the consistency and the routine and the regimen of doing stuff over and over and over and over and over and over and over.
And I I tell athletes this all the time is the magic is in showing up and being consistent and having the right intentions. It's an eventuality. It's not like, oh, maybe it does, maybe it doesn't. No, no, no. It's either going to happen soon in a little while or later, but it's an eventuality that happens. And that is you find a version of success that is fulfilling and like that that qualitative thing that keeps you into this. I don't know. It It's hard to describe. You've felt it.
You've experienced it. I I feel like you embody it more than anyone that I've ever met. Um but I invite everybody just to get out and do do the thing. Like do the thing consistently.
Make it harder than it needs to be sometimes. And it what's on the other side of that is just ridiculous self-confidence and happiness and fulfillment and all the things, right?
Ken Rideout
You have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable in life. And it's like anything like my wife just got diagnosed with breast cancer and I was like we were devastated initially but I was then I was like okay we cannot we cannot wallow around here feeling sorry for ourselves that what's the plan? And I'm like all right let's just get into the plan. Let's try and start getting honey. What's the what's the diet we should be eating? Her diet's terrible. She never listens, but she's always been like genetically freaky and in good shape.
And I'm like, I can't believe you eat that stuff and it still look like athletic. But we have been uh but I I tell her that. I'm like, listen, we've done tons of challenging [ __ ] This is just one more challenge. We're just going to power through it. And I honestly think that when you're used to being uncomfortable, even with physical discomfort on a day-to-day basis, it it makes everything a little bit more tolerable.
Yeah. And especially when you're taking care of yourself and you do get hit with something like this, you're like, "All right, I'm not like smoking cigarettes, eating like crap, overweight, and then all of a sudden everything becomes like exponentially harder."
Trey Hardee
Yeah. It's not this huge lifestyle change that you got to figure out
Ken Rideout
What's going on with it.
Ken Rideout
So Mississippi State, you're at Mississippi State, you have a killer year. Then what happens? How does Texas come calling? like when and at what point is everyone like, "Holy [ __ ] Trey Hardee is the best cuz it must happen quickly."
Trey Hardee
I'm still waiting for that day where like someone says that. But the um I I end up going through my freshman year. I'm I'm an all-American. I get fifth at the NCAA championships. I'm third at SEC's. Like it I'm like, "Here we go."
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Um
Trey Hardee
Half slow till it happens fast. Then that that summer they cut the men's indoor track program. And so half my season's gone, so I'm just going to do outdoors. Uh show up the next outdoor season. I win the SEC title. I finished second in the NCAA. I score 8,000 points. It's like only my fifth decathlon ever. Like it's an ear. Like the ascension is is really hard and fast. And then people are like, "This this Mississippi State character looks pretty good. He's tall. He's fast. He's just going to figure out everything else and he's going to be a force." And uh I end up at the Olympic trials again, my sixth sixth sixth one.
And I'm in a race with the eventual uh Olympic gold medalist, the current world champion, and then a bunch of dudes. I have no idea who they are because I I wasn't a student of the game. I I was so new to it. And we race and I'm like, "Okay, I just beat these guys. Okay, another light bulb goes off." Like, I've got I can do this. Maybe
Ken Rideout
Trials. What What did you finish?
Trey Hardee
Didn't finish.
Ken Rideout
Oh, okay.
Trey Hardee
It not It hit me in the teeth. So, end of a long season. Don't have years of training under me. I When I thin I when I say the word thin, I'm not like physically thin, but like I was brittle. I was broken down. I had not been really training for it because I just went home for a month and I'm a 19-year-old slap dick. Yeah. And
But I show up, I compete. Um, end up I'm there and I'm like, "Okay, now I get what the next step is. I can do the NCAA thing. Here's the next step." And while we're there, my coach says, "Hey, I'm not coming back next year." And this is like the middle of July.
He's like, "Not coming back next year?" I'm like, "What's going?" Yeah. Okay. So, I'm like, "Okay, well, what? Okay, good. Good luck. Thanks." Like, you know, thanks for telling me. And he and his wife were taking I think they're in Nashville right now. They got a job at like Brentwood Academy or somewhere.
Ken Rideout
No. No. Brentwood High School. Yes. That guy runs a track program at the school. I see him there every day.
Trey Hardee
He might be the What's his name? Keith Powell.
Ken Rideout
Yes. He has a he has like a private group that he trains that's called I don't know what it's called, but I see him.
Trey Hardee
And then they've got a son named Dalon.
Ken Rideout
Dalon. Did he go to Navy or Air Force?
Trey Hardee
I think he just got into somewhere.
Ken Rideout
I think he's going to Air Force. If it's the guy I'm talking about, his son's going to Air Force. Yes.
So, he might be the coach at Brentwood Academy, but he has a private group at Brentwood High School. So, when we're doing cross country, he's there. And the girl
Who is the another assistant and and the coach for the girls track team during the outdoor season. She said to me, "Oh, that's so and so." And was he a decathlon? A decathlon or a pool? Yes, that's him. and she's like, "Oh, yeah. He's a famous like coach. He's really
Trey Hardee
Good." Yeah. I need to reach out.
Ken Rideout
You got to tell him that I met him.
Trey Hardee
So, he and his wife say they're leaving.
Ken Rideout
Okay.
Trey Hardee
I think they were there. They got their masters or were doing like a master's program there. Got their masters. Got a really great job. Set up shop.
Ken Rideout
Brewood Academy, by the way, is stunning. I mean, it's nicer than most college campuses. My little guy who's really into sports, he does wrestling, football, and and um lacrosse, and he does jiu-jitsu, but he's like, "Dad, I want to go to Brentwood Academy." So, I'm like, I can't afford to send all the kids there. So, I say to all the kids, "Guys, do any of you want to go to Brentwood Academy or stay with your friends at your current school?" Like, in in them that way.
They're like, "No, no, we don't want to go there." I'm like, "All right, Cameron, you're the only one going done. He's he's only in the
Trey Hardee
We need you to sign this document." Yeah. Um, so they they're they're going to leave. Um, the interim is like, "Okay, who's going to coach me? I'm I am now looking forward to this thing. I need I need help. I'm I want to run for Mississippi State. Never.
Ken Rideout
Did anyone from Mississippi State make make it to trials with you? And did anyone make the Olympic team?
Trey Hardee
I think there was a 200 meter runner. That was
Ken Rideout
Okay. So So it was basically you and another runner were the only real like potential world stage athletes.
Trey Hardee
There were a couple guys like from the islands that were good uh like 100 200 people which
One of them got busted for illegal peeds. So I don't want to count him. So, I I don't know really like stuff's starting to like feel a little unstable and I I basically am not comfortable with what they're doing to replace my coach who has developed me really quickly into this thing who I trusted and
Um I I'm like I just want to look around like I just want to see what else is out there. And this is before the portal before all that stuff. So, I got released just to look take take visits and talk, right? And so I get really
Ken Rideout
Is that a formal process back then? Okay.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. Yeah. I forget what the initial release is called, but it it's like you're open. You can talk to people. Okay. And so I have a couple visits lined up. Florida, Tennessee, which at the time was like decathlete like Mecca and Texas. And the only reason Texas was on the radar was because the coach at Texas and my coach who was leaving were teammates at LSU. same coaching philosophy, kind of same everything. And I just had competed here and was like, "Oh, it seems like a nice place to train." So I take my visit, talk to everybody, and I'm like, "This is what am I I'm not going to waste my time with these other visits." Even like, so I grew up a Florida Gator.
Florida was my was a dream school. I went I went on an unofficial visit to Florida in high school cuz I was like, "Please, let me come and check it out." You know, would have been a great place for me to go. Tennessee, I would have developed just the same. But something again about about the city and about the the coach, the team, everything just felt like it. And again, I'm on book scholarship at Mississippi State. I'm a two-time all-American, finished second in the country. I'm an SEC champion.
I'm still on book.
Ken Rideout
They must be all psyched to get you in there.
Trey Hardee
I'm still on book scholarship at Mississippi State. And I'm basically like asking for what was promised, which was you if you score at nationals, you're on a full ride. This again, this Mississippi State.
And they didn't have the money. And they were like, we're building something here. We need you to we we really need you to, you know, sacrifice to build the team. And I'm like, I I get it cuz I did it the year before. I scored in C's and I was still on books. I was like, I get it.
I want I want to win SEC's as a team. Like, I want to be great. And I'm asking them like, "All right, so hey, I want to stay, but what's going on here?" And they're like, "Yeah, we just we need you to still help us build this thing." I'm like, "Okay." And then the next question is, "Hey, what did Texas offer you?" And I'm like, "Full." Like,
Ken Rideout
"Yeah,
Trey Hardee
What are you talking about? What do you think they offered?" [snorts] And they're like, "All right, let me call you back." Hour later calls me back. Hey, we got a full. I was like, "Oh, you had it the whole time. Cool." you know,
Ken Rideout
They were going to get hold it off on you so they could use it on someone else.
Trey Hardee
Or you just took it from someone.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Right. So instantly was like this gross feeling and I'm like, "Uh, okay. Thanks, coach. Talk to you later."
Next day call. I'm like, "Hey, I'm I can't come back." He wanted a bunch of reasons. I didn't really say anything, but it was just all the things. Oh, and in between there, I go to an under 23 US meet, knack, like a North American under 23 meet, represent the United States for the first time, meet my now wife, mother of my three children. It was like the coolest experience. And then all of a sudden, I have like seven days to figure out where I'm going to go to college.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
In the middle of August.
Ken Rideout
And where was your wife going at the time?
Trey Hardee
She was at UCLA. And so she had already won a national title, set the collegiate record, she's best palter. Yeah. She's on like the all pack 10 century team. Like she's better athlete than I am.
And all this is happening.
And then all of a sudden I'm I'm like
I'm talking to her and I'm like I think I'm going to go to Texas. And she's like, "Oh, my roommate right now is from Austin. I go there all the time." And I'm like, "I'm going to Texas. Like we're doing this. This is it. What a great reason
Ken Rideout
When you're telling me about talking to the coach and I think this is important for the parents listening of how important it is to like raise your kids as future really to give them some autonomy and let them be little adults because you know a kid in college even junior as freshman sophomore in college you're still like a a child in a man's body like you have no experience in life and if you if you if you if as parents you're treating them like little adults as they're growing up and giving them more and more responsibility.
Like I'm just thinking about you co talking with the Mississippi State coach and him putting turning the screws on you and how I would want my kids to be like stick to your guns, tell them the truth, don't dance around it, be forceful, be be authoritative but respectful. I'm just thinking as you're describing that of how difficult that conversation is telling a grown man whose career might depend on your decision like, "Hey, I got to do what's right for me."
Trey Hardee
Yeah. Well, and it also was a call that I didn't want to make. It was one that I wanted my parents to be on and they said no. Y
And it was one of those moments where and there's I've actually thought about this in just recent days of like I wish I could go back and just pep talk young younger version of me, high school me to have that conversation just and frame it a little differently and not be scared to and know that I'm a you're a person like you're a you're a person that they respect that they have to speak to with respect and have to like
Like approach it that way and teach them how to He honestly how to like be socratic and how to just ask questions and and kind of use that as the shield a little bit. But yeah,
That's the se that if you're a kid Yeah. If you're listening out there as a kid, you the secret weapon is everyone's afraid of you.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
You know, like everyone, especially teenagers, like just okay, how do I I don't even know how to how do I guard this guy? How do I get how do I have this conversation? you have just as much power in any any negotiation as as an adult unless they're your coach and you got you respect leadership. But I wish there was a way like youth is wasted on the young. You know,
Ken Rideout
I say it all the time. I look at even some of the girls and my daughter and her friends and I'm I say to my wife, I'm like these are like little these are like children stuck in a woman's body. It's like not fair that they should be like driving that car because they don't know. There's just so many like bad influences out there. And I'm like, "No, no, no. My my my daughter is like ready to kill me." She'll be like, "Dad, can I wear this?" I'm like, "Absolutely not.
Get back in there and change." And she's not really risque, but I'm like, "No, no, no." And my even my wife will be like, "It's that's not that bad. It's a cropped shirt." I'm like, "She's 15. I don't need this."
Trey Hardee
Yeah.
Ken Rideout
But I try to give them some freedoms, but man, it's very I being a parent is the hardest thing in the world.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. You're at a different level than I am. I'm still in I'm 579. And like we're we're still we're still in a good spot. We're in the sweet spot is what I think cuz they're we're buddies. We play. I can still give life lessons.
Ken Rideout
Enjoy a while.
Trey Hardee
But they're not like real life lessons like hey
That that guy's just he's after your body. You don't need like no I'm like hey just play kickball instead of soccer you know. Um so I'm there.
So you go to Texas. Texas. I'm here and
Ken Rideout
And now was there there must have been hype coming in because they're like, "Oh, we got this guy. He's got tremendous potential or
Trey Hardee
I mean as man as much hype as there is in the decathlon world of collegiate athletics, but there it was just exciting because they also they had a really good decathlete who had gotten hurt the year before. So wasn't at you know the NCAA's, wasn't doing all that stuff, but he was the best high school athlete ever. Like he was a 7 foot high jumper, 17 foot pole vaulter. He was awesome and he was a pro. Like he was very it was a really big part of my development was how professional he was and what he brought to training cuz it
Ken Rideout
And Catholics just for people listening, they're super supportive of each other, right? There's is there a lot of camaraderie
Cuz I see them after events they're like, you know,
Trey Hardee
Hugging and kissing.
Ken Rideout
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I know my friend Chris Spencer, who I bought my house from, played for uh played 10 years in the league as a lineman. He was drafted out of uh Mississippi miss was the okay was the center for uh Eli Manning. He gets to Seattle first round draft pick and the guy who's the center is like don't ask me any questions. Don't talk to me. You're here to take my job. F you. I'm going to do everything I can to make sure you never play.
Trey Hardee
Yeah,
Ken Rideout
I think that was the guy. One of the guys said, I believe it was the starting center and and and years later he's like, "Look, I understood where he was coming from. I wouldn't have done that." But
People can be like super territorial. Yeah.
How was the decathlete superstar guy when you got there and welcoming you?
Trey Hardee
It was let's go like in in that event. Yeah. The rising tide's going to float all the boats here.
And because it is such an individual thing
I had it doesn't matter what you do. It doesn't affect me at all. But if you're out here and we're competing in practice, I'm getting better. Yep.
Right. And if and if we don't,
I'm not getting better. like I'm not getting as good as I could be or whatever you want to call it.
So that literal when you do good I do good thing applies across the board really in track. You don't really see it in the sprints as much and you see it somewhat in distance groups but then they always end up like oh he trains at this time and they train at this time and she's here and they're there. It's an interesting thing. Decathlon is not that same. And pole vault too like pole vault is typically like hey we're doing this together. Another set of eyes, some support. If I die, you can see like you can you can be a witness in court.
Like
Ken Rideout
You can say you can tell me I should have wore a helmet.
Trey Hardee
Exactly. And helmets actually make uh make it unsafer. Your false sense of security. Yeah. Yeah.
Ken Rideout
Interesting. They did away with head gear for boxing in the Olympics too because again it would allow you to take way too many concussive blows where it should have knocked you out but
Trey Hardee
Like subconussive hits. Yeah.
Ken Rideout
Exactly. Sustained. You know, one you hit one good shot and you get knocked out. It's like the UFC. They don't have as much brain trauma because one shot you're out. Bra boxing, you just get concussive blows over and over and and they just pile up.
Trey Hardee
I want all the parents to hear that too. No safety gear.
Ken Rideout
I like that.
Trey Hardee
No safety gear. Then they use they exercise caution.
Ken Rideout
Yep.
Trey Hardee
So, yeah, it was game on. I remember it was a week before practice was even supposed to start and and he reached out and I'll just use his Yeah, I'll use his name. His name Donovan Kil Martin. He was awesome. Anybody that knows track and is of, you know, the age of like 30 to 60 knows that kid's name. He was awesome. And he's like, "Hey, we're going to be at I'm going to be at the track at 1. What are you doing tomorrow?" I'm like, "I'm at the track at one." And then we we started right from there.
And he won the indoor national title that year. I won the national outdoor title outdoors that year and we just kind of batted that that title back and forth. Uh I set the collegiate record the next season. Um and then he about it like late in his junior year just kind of made a decision that was all right, I'm going to be a petroleum engineer. I love track but I've kind of had my my day. I I don't have the time to work as hard as I need to work to get to the next level.
And I'm going to get a great degree from a great university and get a great job and get out of here and go start life with my girlfriend and then future fiance and wife and just made a professional life decision and finished up. He was like an eight-time all-American. He was awesome, great teammate, but did not continue to like rise and and
Ken Rideout
Didn't want to be a pro track athlete. that that was kind of the vibe like he made a decision
And now he's the CEO at Exxon
Trey Hardee
Basically he's been he's I think he's been at Chevron for 20 something years like he's he's doing okay
Ken Rideout
That's a good degree to have
Trey Hardee
Doing okay
Ken Rideout
So, this is definitely going to be an EP episode for that the track nerds are going to love. Talk to me about and I apologize if you're not a track person, but I love the ide the the the process of the training.
Like talk to me about like a typical day because again for people that don't know, just outline the events in the decathlon cuz I think it really highlights how much skill you have to have because some of the events you're competing almost with the open guys, right?
Trey Hardee
In a couple like I felt like I could have taken a few months and like dialed it in and been competitive openly. Yeah.
Um but the so the events or the the it's five events over uh 10 events over two days, five events each day. So you've got the 100, the long jump, shot put, high jump, 400 on the first day. Then you've got the 110 hurdles, discus, pole vault, javelin, and you end with the 1500. So you've got really nine events that are explosive, speed, power. The 400's got some speed, endurance in there, but it's you got to be fast. you, you know, you got to be a
Ken Rideout
400 is torture,
Trey Hardee
But you got to be kind of a one rep like stick of dynamite explosive and you have to be able to repeat all of that over and over and over. And the 1500 is just not that. And I learned really early aerobically, I just didn't have like when I weighed 160 lbs, I could run four I think I ran 447 in a 15.
Stephanie, that's crazy. That's fast. And by the end of my career, I weighed 212 and could run 440.
And that's in a decathlon. And like I've run can run faster, but just in the event itself,
It just I just don't don't have the stroke volume. Don't have it like
If I think if I trained right now, give me six months and I would run faster than that. Honestly,
Ken Rideout
The problem is if you want to run fast in the 1500, you ain't throwing that discus and javelin very far.
Trey Hardee
sacrificing all of the other events for the sake of one. And so we consciously made the decision like, look, anything low 440s is serviceable. Let's get great in nine.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
And and then if it ever comes down to it,
We'll, you know, whip nuts on the table and and see what you got. Yeah. And that's really what it is is that suffer. And so you've got jumping events, uh, throwing events, and sprinting events. And so we trained like commonalities and so there wasn't like a day like a typical day.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
There was always 6:30 in the morning was I'm in the weight room and that takes between you know really 2 and 4 hours depending on the time of day. Lots of rest and recovery. So I'm not just in there like huffing and puffing though. These are like very high quality moving the bar fast uh repetitions with a lot of rest in between. And then uh outside Mondays was shot put, high jump and acceleration development. And every other week I would hurdle. So you know weeks one and three were just straight up I'm accelerating on the flat.
Weeks two and four I'm doing hurdles and so I only got to train hurdles twice a month really. Uh
Ken Rideout
And that was one of your better events, right?
Trey Hardee
Yeah. And that's the one event I think I could have like laced them up and and and worked hard at and done pretty well.
Ken Rideout
But Someone's good at the hurdles, man. It is like poetry. And they're just like
They're like sprinting. Their head isn't moving and their legs are just over the hurdles. It's so It's literally like
Trey Hardee
In slow-mo it looks like none of it should happen. Yes. But everything's just moving around this one
Like head and shoulders that's just not moving and it just look Yeah. It's
Ken Rideout
Also when you see those sprinters like they are move they have fast twitch muscles that someone like me will just never have. So when you see a track me in person, you're like, "How is his legs moving that fast?" Like, it doesn't make sense. It shouldn't happen.
Trey Hardee
And it's like most athletes, too, where every it's all relative. Everyone's down on the track and they're like, "Oh, they're all the same height. I don't know. Those hurdles can't be that tall." Hurdles are tall. Hurles are 42 in off the ground. That is that's really really high.
Hurlers are big. Like they're big dudes.
Ken Rideout
It highlights not only, like I said, how fast they are, but the technique is flawless and the amount of practice and time. It's the same thing with like swimming. If you see swimming, they spend a day just diving into the pool streamlining and seeing how tight they can get. And I'm like, when you see real professionals, that's why I'm so interested in the process because when I've seen real pro athletes train at specific skills that are part of a bigger event, it's just like you have a new appreciation for what it takes to be great when you only get to see them once every four years.
Especially for swimmers and a lot of track. Unless you're a track fanatic or swimming nut, right? You only see them every four years and you're like, "Wow, that looks cool." And then you go on about your day, be like, "The amount of work that took for that like three that 10-second sprint or that 10-second hurdle event is crazy."
Trey Hardee
That's what's hard. And looking back, I couldn't have been a onevener, like a single for all of the the time and effort and dedication to go into the one thing.
If I messed up in the hundred, I had nine events to come back and like, "Okay, let's write the ship here." Like, we'll get it back, right? Um, and so you've got all these energy systems. You've got this like single explosive just boom, like the creatine kynise just boom go. And then you've got like little anorobic power. You've got to be able to recover. And then the last system was just aerob aerobic power like that middle distance like how much can you hurt, you know? And really for me it was about how quickly can I recover in between reps, in between events, in between days.
And I don't think anyone in the world recovered as good as I did in between like the overnight deals at those major meets. Like all my best hurdle races are in decathlons. And those are like 7 hours after I ran a 400 with like a little bit of sleep, two meals, and a little massage. So we we would train those energy systems on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Saturdays. And then Tuesdays and Thursdays were technical day, like we're doing technical events like the pole vault, long jump, discus.
Um, and then Sunday was active rest and recovery. And same with whatever Thursday or Friday was like picking up something that we needed to do. Typically it was just doing work. Like it was in the weight room and like you're doing work and that's the lever that we would pull up or down if we wanted to feel better.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Want to feel better? Do less work on Friday. Yeah,
You want to feel like you feel good. All right, we're going to turn the knob up and you're going to do a a [ __ ] ton of work today.
Ken Rideout
So, you get the text, things start clicking right away. And at what point, so so going into your senior year, are you the NCAA champion coming back for your senior year?
Yeah.
And trials are coming up this year. Is that right?
Trey Hardee
Trials are we're two years away from trials. So, this is 2006,
Ken Rideout
World championship year.
Trey Hardee
It's an off off year. completely off year which was a great ended up I kind of wish it was the other way around but yeah so I at indoor NCAA's that year my senior year I'm on American record pace which could have been world record pace if a couple things go my way in the middle of just at the start of day two and I run the hurdles it's the world record for the heptathlon hurdles fastest anyone's ever run in that event and it's not fast but it was fast um and I turn around to kind of look at the score And my spike catches.
I roll my ankle. My tibia hits the ground. Like it I thought I broke my tibia. It was gross. It blew up like a grapefruit. Huge. Like it was couldn't could not go on and just had the pity party for a little bit, right? Uh cost my team a whole bunch of points. Cost us a national championship. It it was it was really difficult to deal with for a day and then literally woke up the next day and was like, "All right, how many days till my first decathlon?" Like, I'm about to like hurt somebody in this decathlon cuz I had set the collegiate record in the heptathon a month or two before that meet.
I was about to do it again. I was like establishing this kind of international presence of like who is this Trey guy? Um, I was going to sign a big contract. Like, I was like really, really upset that this was trying to be taken away from me. So, the Texas Releaser 3 weeks later, I do nothing but rehab and I do some strides like four or five days out from this decathlon and it hurts, but I'm like, "All right, we'll just tape it up and let's do let's be measured and do a little bit here and there." Uh, and I set the collegiate record in the decathlon at that meet and then kind of honestly float through the rest of that season where I do a bunch of individual events.
I just do individual events at conference cuz I can and there was no one close to me on the collegiate level anymore and I kind of let my guard down and I know hided at the NCAA championship cost team some points didn't cost us a championship but cost us you know we went I think we finished third and could have been second and it was like all right I'm done I think I'm done I don't have it in me to compete with younger guys anymore I I'm ready to move on and start training for to the Olympics and coaches were like, "Hey, you you've got one more indoor season cuz Mississippi State cut it." And I'm like, "Okay, I mean, I don't know.
Let me get a free masters program out of this. Let me see if I can get a masters and then I'll come out with a a contract." Like, we're just
It it, you know, six in one hand, half dozen in the other. And the last session in December before the indoor season's going to start, uh, I'm power cleaning 160 kilograms and it knocks me down, lands on my hand, my hand goes all the way back and end up having surgery on my right wrist. And so now I can't throw. So now I can't do the thing that I was going to do. And I'm just again like, why is what is going on? Like why is this being taken away?
What can I do? Well, I could I couldn't put my hand down to get in the blocks and I couldn't jostle it and I'm wearing this um I asked not to be not to wear a cast. So, I had this like splint that just clamps down. And we end up all I did was jump with rubber bands around my waist. That was my training. And then I would show up on the weekends and long jump without like guard like guarding my wrist.
We get to the conference meet. I get second at the conference meet a long jump. Uh I win the hurdles and but the times aren't that good but the times are good enough to get to this last chance meet to qualify for NC's. I win the last chance meets, qualify for NCAA's, and end up being all-American in both of those things because again, like we were talking about this quantitatively sucked
Sucked. Like I'm I don't like the numbers next to my name, but that qualitative part of looking back and going, you know, I could have just signed a proc contract and been done and been like, I can't do it. Sorry, guys. I like found a something to do, right? Okay, I can't I can't do a push-up. Well, I'm gonna I'm gonna run as hard as I can. I can't do this. I can't do that. I'm going to jump. I'm going to do whatever I can to fi figure out a way to kind of not even accomplish the mission, but just I think very young.
No one told me this, but I started to do it later is looking back and having no regret and being proud of that younger version of myself. And so I think about that a lot like even as I sit here right now, okay, the 50-year-old version of me is going to look back and either go, "God, what are you h what was I doing?" or man. All right, here we go. Proud of that guy.
Ken Rideout
So now, now you got your master's degree and you're out. Now you decide to go to term professional in the decathlon.
Trey Hardee
Well, that's an like the sport of track and field's tough cuz you got a bunch of pro people with no contracts and stuff. Well, I got I signed with Nike. Y
Um they gave me a deal to get me all the way through 2010.
Ken Rideout
And what year is this?
Trey Hardee
This is winter of07.
Ken Rideout
Okay.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. And so it's going to get me to 10, which gives me a chance to make an Olympic team, gives me a chance to make a world championship team. Um, and I sign the deal and three practices later, like separate my adductor off my pubic bone, throwing javelin. And again, it's just
Another thing. And it I'm like, h, this is just a part of my life. This is just what I'm going to be doing is rehab. I got real good at rehab. Done a bunch of different kinds of uh methodologies and stuff. and have to take the rest of the year off. Can't sit up, can't get out of bed, can't do a bunch of stuff. Um, so take the rest of the year off, take a pay cut. My first professional year, like I'm a I'm a pro, I made $22,500.
As
Ken Rideout
The other thing people listening need to understand is
It's not like uh an average person like you or I pulling our hamstring or tweaking our calf. When you have like a Ferrari engine and you're racing around a racetrack, there's a lot of things that can break. And that's with all these like really high performing athletes, like I think of like a Christian McCaffrey. His body's moving so fast. He's hitting so hard that it's like it's not like a regular person tweaking a muscle. It's like, dude, you're driving this thing at like the RPMs are through the roof.
Of course, something's going to break at some point.
Trey Hardee
It always bugs me when people call some NFL people like injuryprone or oh, they're soft or they're fragile. No, he's a Ferrari.
Ken Rideout
Yeah,
Trey Hardee
He's not even a Ferrari. He's a Formula 1 race car.
He's competing against Corvettes and Ferraris. He's an F1 race car.
Pick another sport, he blows you out of the water. Like, you know, so it's not that fragility. It's
He's playing with a much diceier like has to be dialed in like version and he's playing. Yeah, there's some Mac trucks in there, you know, like there's stuff that can operate
Ken Rideout
Especially in the NFL. I mean, good lord. You see some of the size of those guys and the hitting. Even when the receiver runs down the field against a DB and they go up for a a pass and they just slam to the ground and like a regular person is probably not even getting up and these guys are just like bouncing around like they're made of rubber and you're like holy crap.
Trey Hardee
They're doing the uh
Ken Rideout
And they're big.
Trey Hardee
They're doing the grape lady thing that like
You can't breathe. Y
Yeah. And it that's just my soap box there for a second. It like really bugs me. I'm like, "No, the dude, he's got Olympic lineage. Like, he is a
He's a Ferrari. Like, he's an F1 guy, you know. Um, I don't even remember what we were talking about."
Ken Rideout
So, you pull your um Yeah. Yeah.
Pull your muscle.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. And so then I honestly can't run for like a year. Can't do anything for like a year and it's just rehab, rehab.
Ken Rideout
And at this point, you hadn't done any world championships or Olympics.
Trey Hardee
Hadn't made any team other than the one that where I met my wife in 2004. And we're I'm I'm now it's kind of like like is this ever going to like what am I doing?
Ken Rideout
Yeah. So you take a year off while you're at you're like still your
Trey Hardee
Oh, it's not odd. Like I'm doing everything I can do. Like I'm still fit cuz I swim and I row and I can jog but I can't sprint. I'm trying to just figure this thing out. [snorts] And about a year later fin I just get in a decathlon and I'm like I need to I need to score some points to get to the Olympic trials. So again, I don't get more money taken away from me. Let's figure this out. And just get through one score pretty well.
And then I end up seeing a physiootherapist who's in uh DFW area and he just unlocks my body. My body was just so like clamped down and like scar tissued over and he just unlocks my body. three sessions and it is I'm I'm I look like I've been in a car wreck and I'm bruised and I'm gross, but I'm like I sprinted today.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Like I can do, okay, let's go. I can do this. Set a huge personal best at the Olympic trials, make the team, finish second, beat one of those guys who I lined up against in ' 04, who was the current world champion, who I'm like, I can beat this guy. Actually beat him. It was huge, huge for me. and then uh head out to Beijing on my first Olympic team.
Ken Rideout
What was that like?
Trey Hardee
That's a that's a big regret of my career. It was great. Like I made the Olympic team. Like it's cool. No one takes that away. But then I get there and I had made it a bigger deal.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
And actually I the inverse of that I made it a big deal and I made it not a big deal. It was the first time I had left the country. It's China. It's it's the Olympics. I'm wearing the USA uniform alongside the best athletes in the world. Like there's Kobe, there's LeBron. Like it it it's a big deal. And I tried to make it not I tried to be like this is just not track me. Like this is the same. It's the same 400 meters. It's the same shot weighs the same.
It's all the same.
Ken Rideout
No, it isn't.
Trey Hardee
No. But the difference is it's cool. It's awesome. I should have been looking around go, isn't this great? Instead, I was trying to be this like, okay, I got the second best scoreer in the world. I'm gonna go out there. I'm g all these guys better respect me. Like, I that doesn't work for me. It really doesn't.
And I as soon as it got hard, I was like, it shouldn't be this hard. This is the hardest thing I'd ever done. The schedule's really spread out. So instead of you showing up to the track one time, hey, we're going to do event then event then event then event then event. You're done in like six, seven hours. No, this was all right, you got five hours this morning, then you're going to take a three-hour break and then you got another 5 hours tonight.
Ken Rideout
A whole different format.
Trey Hardee
And I'm smoked by the middle of the second day. I'm like zombie. I've never felt like this. I'm I'm so unprepared. My body doesn't feel right. This is so foreign. this is harder than I've ever
Ken Rideout
Did you have any mentors? Like was there a coach who was like cuz I always think like, man, I wish I knew you then or or or I could get with an athlete like that and be like, "Hey,
Keep it locked in. Everyone's going through the same thing. The person who handles this the best is going to win. It's not just about performing. It's about everything we do to get ready. It's about the mindset. [ __ ] kill those guys." Yeah.
And staying on point for like It's And I would say, "Hey, it's two days. You could stand on your head for two days. You can hold your breath. We need to stay locked in. When it's over, we'll relax.
Trey Hardee
Yeah, that would have helped.
Ken Rideout
I'm available if anyone needs a
Trey Hardee
Try. I try to remind guys now, like I don't I'm not like in anybody's business, but you know, send a DM or send a send a text that just is like, "Hey, you're you're in a great spot. Let me know if you need anything. What you're about to do, yeah, it's a big deal, but it's also really fun. Remember to have fun. And remember, this is going to be harder. Not because the events are harder, but because of the schedule, because of the the pressure. And you might tell yourself there's no pressure.
There's pressure, man. Like,
Ken Rideout
Do any of them reach out to you? Cuz you're at all the events now.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. There's there's a few that I have good relationships with that are very much like, you know, hey, am I going to see you there? Are you there? And and you it's not like, you know, the weeks before big meets. It's it's always long before like hey I'm really struggling with this part of it and this and this and I'm I'm never like here's how I did it. It's just hey here's what you're going to experience and sounds like you got all the right people in your corner.
Trust your coach. Trust trust yourself. That's all you really can do. And then again I try to re very gently just say look you're going to wake up a year from now and 5 years from now and 10 years from now looking back on this and do stuff you'll be proud of you know like do the do the work
Ken Rideout
When you go there the coach he do you do you I mean you know the coach like you know him but like he hasn't been coaching you per se right or or does or does every athlete bring their own coach?
Trey Hardee
Every athlete has their own coach and then they're basic there's like
Team USA coach and they're they're there to help. They're there to assist your coach like hey can you catch this mid or can you what do you see? Um but really it's managerial. It is very much like hey we need to be here for the bus at this time. Hey I got you a sandwich. Hey I got this. What else do you need me to do? And and it's it's more like that and not like all right now I have this whole new coach who has a different philosophy or anything.
Ken Rideout
I got you. Okay. Okay.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. Yeah.
Ken Rideout
So you go so so you get through the second day and you're struggling. What happens? Where'd you finish? And
Trey Hardee
No I I Yeah. I'm in metal position. I'm ready to rock and roll. I'm throwing the javelin. Best I've ever thrown in my life. I'm running a really fast I know I'm about to run a really fast 1500.
Ken Rideout
Y
Trey Hardee
And I know height in the pole vault.
My bread and butter means you three times in a row at the lowest height. zero points. So go from Yeah. top four to last.
Ken Rideout
How high is it that you get a no height on the first height? I thought that it was like a layup for the first one.
Trey Hardee
Like 480. So like 15 uh8 159. But I think the pole vault's one of those events where people see that like with like what Dan O'Brien did with the Dan and Dave thing in '92 like why didn't he come in lower?
It's really binary. And if I'm not clearing 4 m 80 or 158, I'm not clearing 8 foot8. Like I'm just not clearing anything in the first three jumps. It's just not there. Right.
So there were there were decathons that I came in at 5 m at 164 like much much higher because I was on it didn't matter. I could have come in wherever that day and it just it wasn't going to happen. It
Ken Rideout
So you left there feeling incredibly defeated I assume. I know I've had bad races and I'm like I just want to die. I'm humiliated. Even though no one else would think it way, I'm just like, I'm so embarrassed.
Trey Hardee
I think that Yeah. I I never felt defeated because no one beat me. I beat myself, right? I felt really embarrassed and really ashamed for all the people that had helped me get through that $22,500 year um through college. all my coach was all the way across the world away from his family and the team and everyone that had put their eggs in my basket. It was that was it. That was the first real public shame thing I had experienced that was like
I want like that was all over the world. Yeah.
Like I had done the elementary school thing back home. I had done the like they had done the send off like it it was a big everyone saw it and I it that was it let a lot of people down.
Ken Rideout
That is the
Trey Hardee
That's what it felt like.
Ken Rideout
Yeah. No, no, of course. And and the thing that I always tell myself cuz I know that feeling cuz I have a lot of [ __ ] races and I know people like, you know, I have friends that are wanting but I also know the people competing against me want to kill me. Um right. But that's part of being good at anything.
Dude, you got big old target on your back now, dude. But when that happens and I start to feel like that, and believe me, like I've been embarrassed enough to go back to my hotel room and cry and just be like, I can't believe that my wife be like, "What the hell do you care? Who cares?" And then I come to my senses and I'm like, "You know what? It's easy for others to critique you when you fail." And and like I think of that poem, the man in the arena, and I'm like, "Hey, I'm out here trying and sometimes you're going to stumble and fall and end up covered in mud and dirt and blood, and other people are going to snicker at you, but they're not in the arena.
So it's like,
You know, at the time it's no consolation, but in time you're like, "Yeah, [ __ ] it. I'm out here trying." And like you said about the kids doing track now. You're not going to be a you'll never be a good pole vaulter if you don't go out and try and and do do the PV vault. And when you try, you're going to be miserable. It's like jiu-jitsu. My youngest son, he's into it.
But I'm like, if you are not comfortable getting your ass kicked, you can never be the best. You can't just show up at anything worth having and just show up and ragdoll everyone and be like, "I'm the best." You don't get to declare yourself the best. You have to earn that. And that's what's so great about things like
Gold medals, black belts, and jiu-jitsu. Everyone knows what you had to do to get there. And if the first thing you have to do is humble yourself and be used to losing.
You don't have to be comfortable with it, but you have to be comfortable enough to be like, "Okay, what did I I I always say you never lose in jiu-jitsu. You're just learning.
Trey Hardee
Next time you're not going to stick your arm there." Yep. That's what I I think I wish someone had told me when I was young is just the this idea and it's universally true throughout nature. It's universally true with with us and and growth and learning and like stress and called losing a stress is the direction of of growth in our bones and our muscles.
They become stronger in the direction in which they're stressed. And so running into the thing, running and facing the the the challenge is where growth is. And I I said this, you know, a few weeks ago about like the cows and buffaloos.
Ken Rideout
Yep.
Trey Hardee
Cows turn and and walk away from the storm and then the storm's cows going this way, but the storm's just going to stay over it longer. And the buffalo's turn. That's why they only got the hair and the crap in front. turn, face it, and they're only gonna have to go through it, but like a third of the time that the cow does. Yep.
And that I wish somebody like literally just Billy Madison like shook me shook me into realizing that and not avoiding it to feel cool and not avoiding it to to not not feel bad, right?
Ken Rideout
Well, you said about nature and even with like the best wine, the best wine, the grapes are stressed to the to the nth degree, right? They're freezing cold at night. They're really hot during the day. And that produces the best wine, which is why it comes from certain regions. But
Trey Hardee
Shout out past Robels.
Ken Rideout
All of that sounds great, but it doesn't change the fact when you're going through it, you're like, I just want to die. I just want to crawl into a hole and no one look at me.
So, how do you rebound from that? Cuz I think that that's what this is really about is like getting to the other side of doing this hard [ __ ] to where you're like, I did it. And again, even if I did it is just like I got a I got a mark and I did it the best that I could.
Trey Hardee
I was I was gonna ask you that question before I answered, but um I I got home again, still full of shame, embarrassed, knowing I could have done better, [clears throat] and uh the head coach of of the Texas track team, who was actually the head coach of the US men's Olympic team that year, and and my coach, um sat me down and just kind of it was the first real I would call it the first real like grownup meeting I had.
So this was my job. They I was, you know, paying them pennies and it was, "Hey, what are we doing here?" You're like, "What do you mean?" Like, "Hey, do you really want to do this? Is this is this what we're doing? Is it going to look like this the whole time? How what are we going to do? What are you going to do? If this isn't something that you want to buy in all in, then we can't help you." And I was like, "Can't help me?
What are you talking like? What?" And I was like, "Oh, yeah. I'm not on a team. Like, they don't have to do anything for me." I go, "Oh, well, yeah, I want." And they goes, "No, no, no, no. I want you to take a week off and really think about this." And I was like, "A week?" And they're like, "That's how long we would like for you to think about this." And I'm like, "Okay, okay. I think I know what you I think I understand. Thank you." Walked out, came back a week later, started training, and I would call it I like that mindset that I have now of like looking back and being proud of the work started right there and I professionalized every single thing that I did.
I from the way I slept to what I ate to I I grew up in that week. I grew the hell up and went into it as a professional and probably doubled the amount of time I spent at the track, in the training room, in the weight room to make sure no stone was was unturned and that I was taking care of like the mental part of my game and knowing, okay, I know what this is like out there now. I know what I'm going to feel.
I got to figure out a way. We've got to train that way. And I took more ownership in my training, um, a more collaborative approach. I reached out to other coaches. Hey, what do you see? How do how can I fix this part? How can I do this? And I I wouldn't say that like I sacrifice is a silly word when you're talking about sports and training and stuff. It's either worth it or it's not. Like it's it it was all of it was very much worth it.
All the stuff that I gave up and all the things that I did that I didn't want to do that I made myself do because the the juice at the end was worth worth that squeeze. It was so easy to say I'm not doing that. I'm not going to do that. I'm going to go home. I'm going to do this and then I'm going to wake up tomorrow and I'm going to do this, this, and this and I'm going to stay a little bit extra and I'm going to do this one extra little thing that adds up over time and it becomes over time that there were 90,000 extra reps of doing some pronation stuff so that I could throw the javelin one meter farther so that I could win by that much more.
And there's a again 11 months later I'm a world champion.
Ken Rideout
So 11 months later worlds comes around where were they?
Trey Hardee
Berlin, Germany.
Ken Rideout
Okay. So you still have to travel and like adjust to the time and like
Trey Hardee
Same thing
Ken Rideout
Cuz that stuff is like that stuff is a big deal. I always say if if if a race is like six time zones away, you really should get there six days at least to acclimate to the time difference as a rule of thumb. But I hope that people listen to this recognize that okay, this is how he handled going from probably in your description like failing at the Olympics, not jumping, right? I didn't I didn't do what I came here to do to then turning it around and becoming a world champ a year or two years later, one year or two years.
Trey Hardee
11 months later.
Ken Rideout
11 months later is it doesn't you don't have to be an elite track athlete to take this mindset and these and these learnings. You can apply this to anything. If you're an accountant, if you're studying, I want to marathon at the day before I turned 50 years old. Like the whole thing the and the point is you can apply this mindset to anything you're doing. And I've done it. You've done it and it's available to anyone. The guy who works the hardest is going to win if eventually.
Yes. Yes.
And that's why I love this sto that's why I love your story is it wasn't just like I showed up. I'm so much better than everyone. I just showed up and was like kick the [ __ ] out of everyone. Like a great fighter. You see them show up and you're like he has never lost. Yeah. Well, he also trains harder than everyone else too. He probably lost a shitload in practice.
Trey Hardee
I think talent is very much overrated. It's special. You need some of it,
But it is so overrated. Absolutely overrated. Like preparation and all that stuff. It's just an eventuality. But the real like the real win, like we're talking about winning stuff and world champion and stuff, but the real win I think a lot of people resonate with is the peace of mind and fulfillment you get out of trying hard [ __ ]
Ken Rideout
Yep.
Trey Hardee
And doing it to the best of your ability. That doesn't mean doing it the best. Just doing it to the best of your ability. Whether that's
I was just I was just solo with my three young kids for uh three and a half days.
Ken Rideout
That's a hard job, man.
Trey Hardee
I did it to the best of my ability and it was awesome. It was so hard and frustrating and good, but man, I got to spend so much time with my kids
The the year that I I put in all the work and won the world title, all that stuff. Like the fulfillment that you get out of that is priceless. Like we were just talking about different levels of of income and stuff and how dude I thought a lot of people think money solves your problem. Nope. No it doesn't. Being fulfilled solves all your problems. Being happy to walk inside your front door with your family that solves all your problems. Like your relationship with your higher power or however you define it,
That solves all the problems. And doing things to the best of your ability. Winning and and having success is the byproduct down the line. Maybe it happens early or a week or a month or a year or 10 years or whenever. That's just icing on the cake. That is like living a a you know higher life, right?
Ken Rideout
The the things I like about those wins is like no one can ever take them away from you regardless of anything else you do for the rest of your life. Like you still did those things. And I think that when you demonstrate that kind of commitment to the world, everything in your life gets a little bit easier because you don't have to explain to everyone how hard you work. Most people, if people know you, they're like, "Oh, this guy's like he gets after it." And in 21, I won the Masters Division at the New York City Marathon, 40 and over.
And I would and I was like 50 or I just turned 50. And um the previous winners were like I ran 233. It wasn't very fast, relatively speaking, but the previous winners were like Meb. Yeah.
Meb Keflezighi, Abdi, Abdi Abdirahman, five-time Olympic runner, and Abdi and Meb text me like, "Hey, welcome to the club. Congratulations." And I was like, "Okay, great." But guess what? I was there on the day, went faster than everyone else. And what I always take away from that when I think about it, I'm like, "No one can ever take that away." Like, my name is on there. I'm the Masters champion. I don't care what the time says. I tell the the high school cross country kids this.
I'm like, they're talking about the times were slower at this meet, that meet. I said, "You guys are winners. I don't care if you ran 19 minutes. If you won, who cares? We're trying to win here. I don't care. I'm not This is a time trial." And that's how I look at all those things. is it's like did you win? If if that's your goal, it's like don't get caught up in the minutia. Like first first job is attack and if you can win, no one can ever take wins away from you after the fact.
You know, you just
So you win the world title. Now what happens? You start getting ready for the next Olympic year or is there another world title before?
Trey Hardee
There's a there's a a down year in between where there's like a world indoor championships. Didn't take it seriously. I went after my now wife aggressively that entire season.
Ken Rideout
And is she is she jumping professionally at this point?
Trey Hardee
She is still jumping professionally at this point. The same meet just a few days before I win my world title, she wins a silver in the pole vault. Like just super stoked.
Ken Rideout
So she got a silver at worlds in the vault. Okay.
Trey Hardee
She was awesome. But it seemed like every Olympic year something would happen like she was in a cast both times. So
Should have should have been a two-time Olympian. Just cards fell where they fell. Just a tough tough circumstance. But yeah, pursue my now wife very aggressively. uh in that down year and then the next year comes up there's a world championships it's in uh deu South Korea and this is
Ken Rideout
They don't want to give you any layups do they want to send you all the way around the world for everything Germany
Trey Hardee
It's only been in America once and it was in 2022 but go going back to what you said like the the win in Berlin was a was an impressive win you look at it you look at the numbers you're like shoot that that was a big score
Um and then the one in Korea was one of the worst and lowest scores ever. But you know what? No one ever talks about
The score. Twotime world champion. They're both they're both the same things because everything is like as you know in in marathoning unbeliev it's so relative.
You could get Dez Lindon weather and the toughest mfers are going to win or you can have the perfect conditions like Chicago was awesome last week. like there can
Ken Rideout
Or you even get scorching heat where you're like
Boston like Boston the year or two after Dez won it or maybe a year or two before there was like insane heat where people were like dropping like flies like like professional runners were being pulled off the course.
Trey Hardee
Heat is the we were talking earlier about qualitative versus quantitative expectations and results and like thinking that's winning.
Ken Rideout
Yeah,
Trey Hardee
You're gonna lose sometimes if you only do that quantitative version like what the number says. But if you give your best, you're going to win eventually. Like, it's just going to happen, you know?
Ken Rideout
So, you win in Korea and then what? Then then the Olympics coming up again the next year. And this is 2012, London.
Trey Hardee
Yeah, 12's coming up. And just my last throw in Korea, I shred my elbow, too. So, I was It was a closer closer than I wanted. Um, going into the javelin, my first throw, uh, I throw a personal best. Second throw personal best. But I'm still there's some technical stuff that's off. Last throw. I'm like I'm gonna hit this thing. Like this is gonna be perfect. I still it goes really far and but I shred my UCL tear my triceps. Like
Ken Rideout
This is again what I mean about when you're throwing something so hard with so much force the body can only take what it can take.
Trey Hardee
It was done. And it was really I hadn't trained in a manner that would support the way I was throwing that day. I was I figured it out that day. I was running hard. I was hitting positions and I was like whipping the jab out better than I ever had and my elbow wasn't going to stand for it. So, it exploded. I get home uh within 3 weeks of getting home, I'm doc at Dr. James Andrews clinic in Birmingham, Alabama, where my mom actually worked five floors above his surgery center.
So, we were it was like divine how I got in and when I got in. He sewed me up and three months later I could do a push-up without
Ken Rideout
Three months.
Trey Hardee
It and it it took a couple of months just to straighten my arm out. Three months later I was doing a push-up like a full Tommy John plus some other stuff like with the the strains and and tears in my triceps and my pronator mass was was flipped out. So lot going on and was again it felt a lot like after the '08 Olympics where all right I can do one of two things. I can just wo is me learn nothing try to keep doing the same old same old and maybe I'm ready for the Olympics in 2012.
Maybe I'm not. And I'm the two-time world champion in the decathlon. It's a highly marketed event. It's I'm not you know 100 meter dash guy. I'm not a distance runner, but it's it's right up there in that echelon of like, oh yeah, we know those guy, you know, and I had a bunch of deals in place,
Like not generational wealth, but like set me up, you know, you win Olympic gold medal Kathon, you're kind of set. Um, doing it in an English-speaking country kind of set. And now it's about to, you know, it's getting taken away um by my own my own doing, but like it what am I going to do in a year? look back and go,
I'm going to be frustrated about this my whole life. Or am I going to go I'm going to do I did everything I possibly could do and what better story could there be than this?
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Like here we go. So
8 months after surgery, I'm at the Olympic trials. I have yet to throw a javelin. I've like tossed baseballs and stuff. So I do everything I can possibly do. talking hundreds and hundreds of thousands of repetitions of rehabilitation and all that kind of stuff. Every ice, red light therapy, everything you can think of to get this thing ready. And I'm back there about to throw the javelin going, "All right, I just need to throw." And I threw 69 m when I shredded it and I was like, "I just need to throw 46 m.
That's like nothing. It's it's it's laughable."
Yeah. And I get out and I trot and it's taped up like
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Like the table and I throw it I think 50 something like 51 52. So you get a good mark.
I get a mark and you would have thought I won the Olympic championship right there. Like
Oh my god eight months later I eat, sleep, breathe. Getting to this moment. I throw it. It lands in the ground. It's not good. But I'm I'm freaking out because I just made an Olympic team.
Yeah. And then all the while, what's going on in the background is my buddy and uh USA teammate Ashton Eaton set the world record.
Ken Rideout
So came out having the best year of his life.
Trey Hardee
Put it all together, nailed it, right? Scores 9,000 points. Bruce Jenner's there. Like they're filming the Kardashian show there. Like it was like this huge thing, right?
He sets the record. But all the while I I wish I could have celebrated more with him. I was so invested in what I what I had done and made the team. And so now I'm getting to go to London, second Olympic team, and playing with house money. Yep. Like, oh man, this is just going to be so much more fun than the last time. I know. I've learned my lessons. Like,
No expectations cuz now this world record holder's got to go win. I don't have to I'm not there to do anything.
Ken Rideout
And it's just you and him on the team.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. Just the two of us. And I'm My score at the Olympic trials is not great. I'm like maybe 15th in the world. Like it's not it's not a Oh, watch out for Trey.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
It's like ah Trey, that stinks. That happened to Trey. He's not going to be there this year. So, I get to London, start putting some stuff together, and all of a sudden in the middle of day two, I'm like, I'm almost in first place, right? Throw the throw the discus. And I'm like almost in first place. And I'm thinking, all right, if I can like pull vault my ass off, Javelin's going to javelin, you know, maybe I can push and run the heck out of this 1500 and maybe I can beat Ashton.
Ashton ends up scoring like 8,800 low. I scored 8689 8690 8790 was my highest but like jog I jog in the 1500 cuz I victory lap that day.
Ken Rideout
Okay. Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Um
But I I score within 100 points of my all-time best with a busted elbow. I throw within a meter
Of my all-time personal best in the javelin.
Ken Rideout
Jesus.
Trey Hardee
It made no sense. it. None of it made any sense, but it was this thing. It's the It's the happiest I've ever been in the sport. It's the happiest I've ever been. I love talking about it. Like it just brings me to this. I'm so proud of that young idiot who didn't know much but knew I'm going to do the best I can and that's all I can do and not worry about how far the javelin's going, not worry about how many throws I've taken, not worry about any of that stuff, but get to look back on it and go,
Shoot. Yeah, it worked. Like all of it worked, right?
Ken Rideout
So great. I love stories like this. So you end up he gets gold, you get silver.
Trey Hardee
Yep. first ever one-two finish for the United States since uh 52. So it it had been Yeah. 60 years since that had happened. It was Yeah, it was awesome.
Ken Rideout
You know, when you were telling that, I always think about that expression like it's not over until you either quit or win. And again, winning doesn't have to be finishing first. For you, it just meant getting there, competing, and doing the best you could do. And if silver medal was the best you had that day, then that's the win.
Trey Hardee
Yeah.
Ken Rideout
And it would have been very easy to just give up and been like, I'm already a two-time world champion. It's very easy when you've won something like, "Yeah, I'm not doing it again. Why have I already won? I'm the best. No one can beat me."
Trey Hardee
Only one place to go from here. That's
Ken Rideout
Exactly. And that's why like doing events even now for myself when they don't go well, I'm like, "Oh, why did I do that?" And then I'm like, "What the hell am I talking about? Now I got to go do this again and fix this."
Trey Hardee
But that's like what you're saying, too. No one takes away no one takes that name off of the off the record books.
Ken Rideout
Yeah.
Trey Hardee
Yeah.
Ken Rideout
So, what happens after that? like at what point are you like, "All right, time to get on with uh everything else or
Trey Hardee
I put in I put in another four really I would call them frustrating years where I'm like my elbow's fine, I'm super fit, I'm really powerful, I'm fast, everything is like feels like coming together and then in some of the biggest moments like my hamstring starts cramping or my back starts to spasm or something and I think just the training catches up. Like I trained really hard for a really long time. And again, it was frustrating, but only frustrating in the moment. Like I'm not frustrated here talking to you about it now because I know I did everything I could have done, you know?
Like could I have been wise? Could I have been more wise?
Yeah, but I worked hard.
Ken Rideout
But also like your body can only take so much of that kind of training that you're doing to be a decathlon world champion Olympic athlete. Like that's a lot of training and a lot of stress. And now you've had your elbow and all the other injuries, they start to pile up.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. And so I had started before my teammate Ashton and he had already he had retired before I finished. So really Oh, yeah. He not that
Ken Rideout
He came in, did the damn thing, and was like, "Later, guys." Yep.
Thanks for having me.
Trey Hardee
I mean, did pretty well. Set Yeah. Set a couple world records, two Olympic golds, and two world titles. Yeah.
Ken Rideout
So cool.
Trey Hardee
Heck yeah.
Ken Rideout
So, what are you doing now? You're training people. Austin, Texas.
Trey Hardee
Yeah. out actually moved a little bit west. So, Dripping Springs, so like 25 miles west of Austin and had just little tiny space kind of attached to a kind of elite volleyball club training facility. Uh, still get to commentate and still get to be involved with the sport, working with NBC Sports, traveling all over the world doing that.
Ken Rideout
I love when I see you on the thing. I always call the kids in and I'm like, "Guys, guys, my friend Trey is on TV and they're like, "Dad, you've told us this every day. The track meets been on all week. He's talking about this obscure discus thrower. Come watch this.
Trey Hardee
Um,
Ken Rideout
I love it. I can't get enough of it. I'm a huge track geek now.
I got to watch everything. I'm looking at what kind of shoes is the discus throw. Oh, he's changing the shoes for the javelin. That's interesting.
My kids like that. No one cares about this. I'm like I do,
Trey Hardee
Dude. It's they'll they'll get into it. It just takes time. Um, and then I doing like the regular season of Track and Field, uh, pitched a show to Flow Track and I get I'm like the the main host of the Diamond League show called the Athletes Lounge and we get to have it's it's like the Manning cast and the Pat McAfee show but while the track meets going on. So we have we bring guys in, we we're talking like sometimes we're talking about the track meet, but it it's on you can you can watch it while we talk track kind of thing.
Love that. And it's B it's for track nerds like
Ken Rideout
Can I come on and talk about the marathon or something?
Trey Hardee
Absolutely 100%.
Ken Rideout
I would love to.
Trey Hardee
Heck yeah dude. Um and so trying to get all that done and again it very decathlete of me that I'm doing a bunch of different stuff and so yeah get guys home for summer, get them ready for all their fall stuff, all the collegiate guys. um have a good group of high school kids that that float around in offseason and then now doing some long-term athletic development which I really
Didn't think I would like as much as I do where you know that 10 to 14year-old going through puberty they got new levers they don't know the the long-term athletic development and skill development and really just teaching of like concept and and this is what training is this is how to train this is what how you should think about things I've really started to enjoy that. And then there's the kind of oneoff here and there, like kind of moms and parents of like, hey, I just need to get in shape for next year.
And like, all right, we can do that. Like, I can blow a whistle just as good as anybody.
Um, but and then honestly, I'm looking for the next challenge really. I had a conversation the other day just about like I can feel it that okay, I not that I figured anything out on the coaching and training thing, but like
I have an NBA. I feel like I have like the desire and the time now that my all my kids are in school. We're ready to go. Like I I want the next challenge, like the next really hard thing to go and and and struggle with and have to learn because we talked about like I I want stress to be able to continue to grow and not that I've figured anything out, but things are
Things for the at least for this month things are good.
Ken Rideout
What about coaching? I think
College program
Trey Hardee
That'd be awesome. Yeah. I like I literally have no like uh
Other than elementary PE can't I can't do elementary PE.
Ken Rideout
If there are college coaches listening to this and aren't on the phone like before the episode's over, then they're making a mistake. Like that would be an incredible uh an incredible get for any program. And uh we definitely want to have you come to Brentwood High School and work with all the kids there and or at least talk to them. And my friend um John Withro, his son is an aspiring pole vaulter. They were coming. They actually this week they were in Nashville while I was here.
Unfortunately, the kid was looking at uh Belmont. He's going to be a senior next year and he's a pole vaulter.
And of course, you know, the first thing I told him, he's like, "You know that I'm friends with Trey Hardee, right?" He's like, he goes, "You've told me like six times."
Trey Hardee
That's killer, dude. Anytime. Anytime.
Ken Rideout
You're the best brother. Thank you for doing this. I hope everyone feels inspired listening to a world class athlete and sees
You don't just get to show up and win like what hard work looks like and what it can lead to in the life you can live if you just put in the work. And um thanks for doing this, brother. Appreciate you.
Trey Hardee
Thanks for having me, man. Always good to see you.
Ken Rideout
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Key takeaways
- A public failure can expose the work and commitment still missing.
- A coach's blunt question can turn embarrassment into a decision about whether to commit.
- If an injury closes one path, look for the events and training you can still do.
- Consistency matters more than one burst of motivation when learning a multi-event sport.
- Winning can mean completing the work and giving your best, not just posting the highest score.
- Trust your support team and keep doing work you can be proud of.
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